Christmas is fast approaching and many people find this time of year tough.    Financial and family pressures can reach another level.  You might be feeling stressed, overwhelmed and certainly not in the mood for celebrating!  (Trust me you won't the only one!)

For some Christmas can stir up feelings of grief and loss, missing those who are no longer with us.  For the socially anxious; Christmas parties and family gatherings might feel daunting; worrying about making small talk, overthinking conversations...

The festive period can isolate feelings of loneliness, especially for those who are estranged from family or have lost loved ones.

In a highly commercialised society, driven by social media Christmas portrayed as a time of happiness, joy, and togetherness. When people feel disconnected or unhappy, they might experience guilt or shame for not being able to live up to these ideals.

My tips to help you through this period:

• Set Realistic Expectations: Accept that the holidays might not be perfect, and it's okay to lower expectations.
• Take Care of Yourself: Prioritize self-care, including rest, eating well, and getting outside when possible.  Even a walk around the block can help.
• Reach Out for Support: Don't hesitate to reach out to friends, family, or a therapist if you're feeling down. Talking to someone can provide relief.  (see below for points of contact)
• Create New Traditions: If old traditions feel painful, consider creating new ones that reflect your current needs and desires.
• Mindfulness and Relaxation: Practice mindfulness, deep breathing, or meditation to help manage stress and stay grounded.
• Limit Social Media: Avoid the pressure of comparing your holiday experience to others' perfect-looking posts.
• Plan for Breaks: If you're spending a lot of time with family, schedule moments for yourself to recharge (again even if it's a walk around the block!)

If you are in Surrey and experiencing a mental health crisis or emotional distress you can contact the NHS Mental Health Crisis Helpline for free on 0800 915 4644. They are open 24 hours a day, 365 days a year for mental health advice and support.

The Surrey Mental Health Crisis service can be accessed virtually using the link: https://nhs.vc/sabp/safe-haven-Epsom  or by attending Brickfield Centre, Portland Place, Epsom, KT17 1DL.  These services are available everyday; 6pm until 11pm, including over Christmas.

The Samaritans are also available to call for free on 116 123.

If you're looking for support with your mental health and would like to enquire about starting counselling with me in the new year, please reach out to me by completing the enquiry form or by emailing enquiry@bansteadtherapy.com